No relationship starts as a toxic relationship. They all seem normal and fun in the beginning. There are good times and their times that are not so good. But there might be times when you can no longer bear the on-going, the happiness in lost somewhere and has just left you with a hollow emptiness. It may be difficult to identify or recognize the signs of a toxic relationship. If you tick 6 out of the 9 signs below, then my friend it’s time to DETOX your life!
1. No matter what you do, its never enough.
Planned a romantic date, baked a cake, bought them gifts, handled all their tantrums, did
every possible thing to make them happy. But nothing seems to work. Your partner is always complaining and criticizing you around. You are never appreciated for your efforts. If you are giving your best and its still not enough then you are probably giving it to the wrong person.
2. Your partner looks down on you in public.
Whether it’s a family gathering or hanging out with friends, they don’t leave an opportunity
to make you feel low. They find some point or the other to embarrass you infront of friends, family or to make fun of you in public. And sometimes you can’t even blame them because it is done in sneaky ways that aren’t flat-out criticisms.
3. There is always a tiff between you both.
It might be like you both agree on nothing and argue on everything. Its not that happy
couples never fight, they do fight but they use the disagreements as a means to reach a
mutual understanding. However, you guys never seem to reach a consensus. And at last its
always you who has to step down because no matter what your views are never accepted
4. Playing the blame game.
It takes two to clap. Likewise, it takes two people to build a toxic relationship. You both
blame each other for all the unhappiness and drama in your relationship. And none of you
wants to take the responsibility or mend their ways. The only way it can change is if you
both recognize there is a problem with your attitude and you want to fix it.
5. They want you just for themselves.
Being possessive of the person you love is good but being too much possessive can be
suffocating at times. They constantly keep an eye on your social media accounts, constantly ask for your passwords, get too agitated at your slightest communication with the opposite sex. Trust is the bedrock for any healthy relationship.
6. Your gut says something is wrong.
You need to trust your gut. If there is a strong instinct that something is wrong then there
are high chances that there might be something fishy going on behind your back. Our Gut is the strongest voice that speaks to us. But before reaching to any conclusions or taking any actions based on your guts, you should talk to your partner once about the problem you’re feeling.
7. Abusive nature.
Abuse of any nature whether physical, verbal or emotional is not acceptable under any given circumstances. It’s not unusual to feel afraid of leaving the person who’s abusing you. It’s important to remember that there are people who can help you every step of the way. All you need to do is just talk about it to someone who is trustworthy, it might be your friend or someone from your family.
8. You are stressed all the time.
Does it feel like you are constantly in a place of suspended anxiety all the time? You don’t
feel happy anymore. Rather the happiness has been replaced by stress, anxiety, and
depression. This is a major sign that you are in a soul-sucking relationship.
9. The fact that you are reading this.
If you find yourself constantly clicking on such links, reading such books then it’s about time that you realize you need guidance. It is as simple as that. If a major part of your day goes in reading such articles then it’s an important sign of you being in a toxic relationship.
It is not easy to extricate yourself from a toxic relationship. Letting go will definitely hurt but holding on to it longer will hurt even more. If it’s you or anyone you know is in a toxic
relationship then there is an urgent need to Detox your life. As toxic relationships drain you
out completely. The choice is not an easy one but definitely a necessary one because you are definitely worth more than all this drama.